I admit that I'm not quite sure if I can properly understand what you are saying. But everything I can understand, I also mostly agree with. I certainly do hope that tears and blood stop as soon as possible.

I'll take an example from the history of Finland. In WWII we defended our territory against Russian invasion, and finally our political leaders more or less allied with Nazi Germany to get supplies and support. War is ugly business, all in all. Toddlers might fight for a toy, but I think adults should turn to more humane and diplomatic ways of resolving disagreements... So, I don't see much glory nor heroism in real life warfare. Yet, some of my customers are veterans of war. Listening to their stories I greatly respect those individuals who just happened to face the hell. None of them wanted to start a war, yet they went defending their homeland against unjustified agression. Most of them returned wounded, either physically or mentally or both. So, for me, the best way to pay respect to our veterans is to work hard for peace, to avoid any future warfare.

And it is somewhat same how I think of situation in Ukraine. I do symphatize with most of what I saw and heard of Maidan movement, but I understand that they never were a homogenous group with clear united goals; there were many subgroups, and it might well be that I don't agree with every subgroup. Global politics and news often try to tell a simplified story, but the reality is always bit more messy and complicated. And everywhere it is so that the leaders are notorious of declaring some values and then in reality acting according to a different plan - so I'm not taking the face value of any political group talking.

And, yes, it really seems to be a common problem in most of the countries in this world - no matter what the political or economical system is, it is all too often so that the elite gain most of the profits, and the ordinary people are left surviving with what little is left. In some countries that "little" is even less than in some other countries. And this problem isn't easily solved by just toplling a goverment, as it often so goes that a new elite will replace the old one, with some of the key players just staying in the power behind the curtains.